Yahweh God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone;
I will make him a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18
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WoW, very interesting message that deserves to be considered!
As a balance to Steven Anderson’s words in my title, I added: “as we are both led by the Holy Spirit.”
Disclaimer: I don’t agree with everything Steven Anderson teaches, especially in applying the old covenant law to a particular group of people, when he admits the new covenant supercedes the old in this video, in which I wrote a comment, challenging this dangerous notion.
Also, I don’t fully agree with everything Steven says here, for I believe the Holy Spirit can and wants to lead both the husband and the wife. And when they disagree on something, they should both pray about it, for the husband can, of course, be wrong; even though, he is called by God to be the leader.
And in many cases, the husband should submit to the wife, especially in practical things, in which women often have more insight.
When the husband believes something is so, I don’t believe at all that the wife is expected by God to automatically do what the husband thinks is right when she disagrees and has a check in her spirit. And I think the husband should appreciate her perspective, and seek it out, making decisions together.
What about strong-willed women?
A 5-fold minister (Tom E.) once told me: ~“if a man marries a strong-willed woman, the husband needs to be stronger willed than the wife.”
But not by much, though. “Anything you say, honey” would be the most boring words in a marriage, I think.
I’ve thought of the husband and wife facing each other in their three-point stances, face to face on the line of scrimmage on a football field, and the husband being just barely stronger willed. That’s fun and healthy, when one’s wife isn’t a pushover, but she doesn’t want to dominate, either.
Also, Steven believes the wife/mother should work at home, for often, the children suffer when Mom is gone. Couples should pray about what to do in their particular circumstances. We’re supposed to be led by the Spirit, Who will help us know what to do when we’re serious about following Christ.
My mother was kindergarten teacher when I was attending school. Working half-days, teaching other children was great, but I was an only child too.
Having said all that, this is what Steven said, transcribed by me:
“If you can’t look at the guy that you’re thinking about marrying, young ladies that are single, if you can’t look at him and say: ‘that’s somebody I want to follow; this is somebody that I want to help; this is somebody that I want to submit to; this is someone that I want to lead me for the rest of my life,’ then you should not marry that guy. Because when you get married, that’s what you’re signing on for if it’s a Biblical marriage.”
– Steven Anderson
Marriage should be awesome, when people marry the right person, led by the Holy Spirit, living in the Son.
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Published on Jul 21, 2014
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